“Here is the truthful definition of self-love: self-love is the unconditional love and respect you have for yourself that is so deep, so solid, so unwavering that you choose only situations and relationships–including the one you have with yourself–that reflect the same love and respect.” -The Queen of Self-Love Christine Arylo
“Anything you feel, believe, or say that goes against yourself is a sin. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is the opposite…when you are impeccable you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not blame or judge. […] Sin begins with the rejection of self. Self-rejection is a mortal sin and leads to death. […] Use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself.” Don Miguel Ruiz jr
“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” –Alan Watts
Seek Your Truth
The innate ability to comprehend any situation that manifests itself is not a quality possessed by everyone. Most people see the apple, not the core. But it is within the core of the apple that the seeds reside. Being able to fully absorb all of the information, be it visible or just beyond sight but relevant is an admirable quality that is often underrated. People have a tendency to overlook the obvious because they are so consumed with, what they perceive to be, relevant. In order to achieve a thorough understanding of our lives, I believe that we must not only see the obvious but look to the core as well. Doing this requires a person to be completely honest with themselves. To shed the layers of mystification that we have applied to ourselves, in order to conceal that which we do not want others to see and that which we are ashamed of. We must confront our fears and stand toe to toe with our shortcomings. This, however, is easier said than done.
When faced with the reality that we are fallible and ignorant, it becomes increasingly difficult to stay vigilant in the pursuit of our own truth. Making those hurdles requires an extraordinary amount of tenacity and fortitude as well as the ability to remain self-effacing. These abilities are often at odds with each other and will sometimes override and overshadow each other, which necessitates the induction of poise. The scrupulousness of our tact determines our capacity for achieving this balance.
Many times in life it becomes seemingly necessary to conceal our true selves in order to feel accepted, not only by others but by ourselves as well. This act of self-defense can often undermine the true nature of our goals, giving birth to self-doubt and insecurities. The biggest hurdles we may face in life may be in fact, of our own manufacture. The realization of this involves not being delicate with ourselves. Sometimes, in order to achieve serenity, we must bask in the chaotic interdependence that we have surrounded ourselves with and accept its true origins. Realize that it is we who are in control of ourselves and nobody else is responsible for creating or negating our veracity. This can prove to be difficult when you enter the realm of diffidence. None the less, it is our own responsibility to get past this obstacle, to climb the wall of doubt and descend to the stable ground of confidence below.
Once past this hurdle, the ability to maintain that course is requisite. Allowing ourselves to be diverted by the iridescence of life’s everyday deceptions involves a continuous acknowledgment of their paltriness. Being able to distinguish them as diversions is a requirement for success in this endeavor. Creating a mental environment that is conducive and welcoming to all characteristics of reality is detrimental to unlocking the mysteries we seek to unravel. Pushing the limits of this reality is our obligation. Understanding that there is, in fact, no such thing as limits when it comes to the mind is a hard thing to accept and requires us to be unbounded in our perceptions.
The truth of it all, in my opinion, is that we are our own worst enemy, that we hold ourselves back while maintaining a position of innocence to this, that we lie to ourselves in order to deflect responsibility to others. You hold the key to your own success or demise. You pave the road you travel. And you allow yourself to be diverted from this road by accepting the self-imposed limitations of others as reality. Do not be a slave to your fears and insecurities. Free your mind of these contrivances and manifest exuberance for the truth. Seek knowledge, truth, love and acceptance. Be proud of who you are and never allow the mendacity of your physical surroundings to put limitations on what you can achieve. Have faith in yourself above all else and respect the right of others to do the same. I wish you luck.